Acquire What You Desire.

I've learned in relationships that only yourself can create the change that you desire. Simply telling/making someone change is not effective and kind of demanding which creates a bad vibe. You have to understand everyone has their flaws and their own technique of handling situations. A lot of these habits can be impacted from previous relationships, parenting, or even peers. But at the same time that you understand what makes your partner who they are, some of their ways aren't acceptable when they are directed toward others. Every individual is truly unique.

I say that you have to create the change that you desire, it requires you to approach the situation differently then the past, or even what your accustom too and you can do this by knowing your partner. This will allow you to figure out an effective way to approach a barrier in relationship more effectively. The key to all this is to never give up. You have to find a method that works and you might have to try multiple ways to discover what works. There are tons of different approaches to the obstacles that are slowing you down.

Here is an example. If you and your partner fight all the time, I'm sure you talked about the situation plenty of times, trying to figure out how you can not fight so much anymore and it always seems to never work. You, yourself have to think of a different approach. Try telling your partner i don't like fighting with you i want to try a new idea, every time we fight and it gets out of hand we say a word and if one of us say it you have to drop everything and start over and leave any feelings behind. Your creating the change that you desire in an effective way. After you notice a change you can continue to try these approaches to whats causing you to fight as well as any other issues. If you love each other you should at least be willing to try anything.

If you have issues with communicating and it isn't getting any better play the 20 question game. After awhile these habits will become natural that you wont even have to think about it. Before you know it you are creating a healthy happy relationship. Relationships take a lot of work, think outside the box to acquire what you desire.

I encourage everyone to try different approaches and watch your relationship improve. Maybe not over night but any progression shows that anything is possible.